Postpartum Recovery

Isaac is a whole 19 days old today. Wednesday was his first pediatrician appointment. He was about eight ounces above his birth weight and had grown over two inches. That's. Insane. He's still tiny, but no wonder he's been eating like a racehorse.

So, I'm doing much better since first coming home from the hospital. It was such a fun, terrifying, joyful, painful time. Packing up Isaac and the mountain of diapers, pads, and Vaseline tubes from the hospital room, we simply drove off with a new, super little person. Some guy took me down to the lobby in a wheelchair. Ryan's parents had pulled up the Jeep and, after two days of constant care and supervision, we just left. No tests for our ability to keep this baby alive, no signed papers promising to be conscientious providers of love and support, and definitely no more hospital employees to bring me hot tea whenever I asked (although, they often forgot to actually bring the tea, but I believe they fully intended to).

Driving back on 385 to our house, the familiar roads and signs comforted me. After just two days of hospital beds, IVs, blood pressure cuffs, and reams of papers to sign, driving in the warm and sunny outdoors felt renewing. Ryan and I stopped at Bi-Lo to drop off my blood pressure medication prescription.

Wanting to feel like a real person again, I walked into the store myself while Ryan stayed in the car with Isaac. This was no small feat. Still sore and feeling mutilated, people seemed to stare at me as I inched my way to the pharmacy counter. I have way more respect for my grandma who gets her own groceries and has to use the motorized shopping cart. Normally, I'm a fast walker, but the stacks of canned soup seemed to walk faster than me.

Anyway, when we got home, a few neighbors were outside and cooed over the pretty baby. We don't know our neighbors that well, but an hour later, a couple that lives diagonal from us brought fried chicken and green beans. That reminds me how I need to be more thoughtful when others have babies or any other big life changes. I've been amazed how generous and kind so many have been to us, not just after the birth, but throughout our whole lives.

Being home felt great, especially since Ryan's parents were staying for an extra day and my mom would be there another three weeks. I took Isaac to the nursery and fed him. We rocked in the glider chair and I stared at Isaac's perfect head of hair. In that moment, I felt like I had the world. I stroked Isaac's head, telling him how blessed we were and how much we would grow to love each other.

And that was the last positive thought I had for the next two days.

Okay, that's an exaggeration, but not by much. As I mentioned in the last post, I barely slept at the hospital, but wasn't too worried since I figured I'd sleep well in my own bed without beeping machines and IV drips. I tried to take a nap that afternoon, but was too wired and took a shower instead. I tried to sleep again a few hours later, but my mind wouldn't turn off and I just laid in bed, thinking about everything.

How many people were in the delivery room? There was the nurse, that other nurse, the anesthesiologist, mom, Ryan...was there another person? Well, Isaac, of course. But wasn't there some other lady? I should send dad a picture of the baby. It would be great if he could come visit, but it would probably overwhelm him to make the trip. How long have I been laying here? Guh, over an hour. I should just get up and talk with Ryan and his parents in the living room. It's pointless to just lie here, doing nothing. What if something happens to Ryan and I have to raise Isaac by myself? Oh, God, don't let that happen. I couldn't raise children by myself nearly as well as mom raised me and Kristin. I should set up an appointment to get Isaac's pictures taken. Maybe I should do it myself, but my camera won't be nearly as good as somewhere professional....

Have I mentioned that I have anxiety? The thoughts ranged from trivial to crazy depressing. Finally, I got up and asked Ryan and his parents to pray that I would be able to sleep. They did and I felt better, but slept for maybe an hour that night. Ryan and his dad went to Bi-Lo to pick up my prescription and I decided I just needed to cry. I rarely cry, but it was surprisingly easy to start. When Ryan got back home, I just cried with him in bed for a long time. He is great at listening to my repeated fears.

I didn't consider making a bottle of breast milk and having someone else feed the baby since I'd heard I should wait a month before using bottles or pacifiers. So I spent most of the night in the nursery, rocking and feeding.

By morning, I was a hot mess and still crying all over the place. We had an appointment with a breastfeeding center that Wednesday morning. At the center, the workers asked basic questions about how breastfeeding was going. I said it was going well...and immediately started crying when I asked them how I could sleep when Isaac wakes up every hour or two to feed, not to mention when I'm unable to turn my head off.

"I've slept maybe five hours since giving birth," I cried.

"That's not okay. You have to get more sleep," Ms. Obvious said, way too positively. "Just make time for yourself."

"I know. I just can't. My body just won't shut down."

"Yes, it's hard these first few weeks. When you get home, just let your mom and husband take care of the baby and get a really good nap."

"Um, yeah, I've tried that. I just lay awake in bed and my head won't turn off," I said, still crying.

"Well, when the baby sleeps, just ignore the chores and any other responsibilities. Focus on getting rest..."

Finally, the consultant understood that my problem wasn't making time to sleep, but truly being unable to. She gave me a number for some place that could give advice on medication to help, but I ended up just calling my OB that night.

"Well, the doctor doesn't want to prescribe anything heavy yet, but if you're still unable to sleep by Friday, give us a call," the on-call nurse said.

I didn't think I could make it another day and a half without sleeping, so the nurse gave the okay for Melatonin and/or Tylenol PM. I pumped a bunch of milk into a bottle, handed off Isaac to Ryan and my mom, and for the next 12 HOURS, did all I could to sleep. I took both the Melatonin and Tylenol, which made me groggy and for a few blissful minutes, I thought my mind would slide into happy dreamland...

But then my mind sprouted gnarled, decaying hands that clawed their way back to consciousness.

"Noooo..." a voice cackled. "You're not getting off that easy. We've still got some gloom and despair for you. Heh heh heh...double, double toil and trouble..."

I've suffered insomnia before and each time I feel like I'm going crazy. Sometime during those 12 hours of trying to sleep, Ryan laid with me again and listened to my fears and crying...again. He doesn't sing much, but sang Our God is an Awesome God and prayed.

Note to all spouses: you don't always have to fix a situation. Sometimes, just being there and listening is enough.

He and my mom took turns watching Isaac that night. Ryan even slept in a sleeping bag in the nursery because I thought it might help me sleep to have our room to myself.

By Thursday morning, I was shaking and knew I was about an inch from the end of my rope. When I can't sleep like that, I also can't eat very well. That's definitely not how you want to shed some post-pregnancy pounds.

I called my OB the second they opened (literally...I kept checking the clock and called right when it turned 8:30). The nurse probably heard the notes of crazed panic in my voice, so said to come right in.

Yeah, this chick's gonna do something crazy, the nurse probably thought. Maybe not hurt her baby or anything, but something like drive to Costco and buy all the white-out for no reason.

Ryan and I drove to the doctor while my mom stayed with Isaac. That was the first time we'd both been away from him. I met with one of the doctors who stopped by my hospital room a few days earlier and while I'm not crazy about her intensely peppy bedside manner, she was fabulous that day.

"I've tried everything: Melatonin, Tylenol PM, chamomile tea, nothing short of hitting myself in the head with a hammer," I said.

Waving her hand, the doctor said, "Oh, girl, none of those ever work. Let's try this. I'm going to start you on some Ativan. It's perfect for breastfeeding. It'll knock you clear out."

So, that night I took an Ativan and got drowsy, but then those claws inside my brain twitched and, once more, overpowered the drowsiness. Frustrated, I took one more Ativan and then, about two hours later, walked into the nursery where Ryan was watching Isaac.

"Did you sleep?" he asked (Ryan, that is. If Isaac talked, I'd just start screaming and probably never stop).

Confused and disheveled, I said, "I...don't know. I got sleepy and...I don't know if I slept or not."

"Well, I came to check on you once and you seemed asleep."

"Maybe I did sleep...but I could have just been half-awake...I don't know."

I took one more Ativan and the same thing happened.

A few hours later, I came to the living room and told Ryan, "Um...I think I slept again, but it's hard to tell. I feel like I did, but maybe I was just laying in bed the whole time...I can't tell!"

It was super weird, but apparently I was sleeping and slowly got back to normal sleep. At least, as normal as it can be when you have to keep a little person alive throughout the night. I'm just taking one Ativan a night and can sleeeeeeep. I should only need it for a few more weeks, but we'll see. Whatever, I'm just glad for the sleep I'm getting. Believe me, if you've never suffered from insomnia, being given back the gift of rest after days or weeks of anxious wakefulness makes everything more bearable.

I'm doing well now that I'm sleeping. Sure, I could use more sleep, but then again, I'm a "heroic sleeper," as my brother-in-law brilliantly coined me, my mom, and my sister. It's true...we can sleep forever if given the chance.

So, all of this said, I've written more about the troubling parts than the good ones. There are a lot of good times, but it's helpful to write out the really hard parts. I'm actually enjoying a lot of the baby-ness. I still get really sad around 4 or 5 pm and cry for about an hour, just about the overwhelming realities of motherhood and my already-present anxieties of something happening to Ryan. Who knows why it's always at these times, but considering it's the only time of day I feel low, I'm not worried about it. With another three weeks of postpartum healing, these crying jags seem pretty minimal. Besides, sometimes it just feels good to cry.

Right now, I'm snuggling with Isaac again. When he's fed, relatively clean in his diaper (it's impossible to keep that butt clean...apparently newborns soil diapers faster than...I can't even think of an analogy. It's just intense), and asleep in my arms or in one of the several places we have set up for him to sleep, I feel like a good mom.

And I do love this baby. It's taking awhile to feel that mother-son bond, but we're getting there. I'm at least used to Isaac's little face and the cute pucker he makes during feedings. He's started focusing a little bit on faces and his little thighs are getting a small amount of chub around them. I've always wanted a chubby baby, but it makes me a little sad that he's already getting older. Ridiculous, I know, since he's not even three weeks yet, but I love this little baby curled up on my chest. Someday, he won't need me nearly as much as he does now, so I want to savor these days.

"You Can Endure Anything for 10 Seconds"

DISCLAIMER: I'm not super graphic in this post, but I'm writing about my labor and delivery. So, if you're squeamish about this sort of thing, watch this instead: Cute Kittens Compilation.

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My friend, Kelsey, brought on my labor. Totally true. She called at 3 pm Sunday afternoon (March 29) and during the call, I started feeling contractions. Throughout the next 15 minutes, they got stronger and came every few minutes. There was no need to wait for that 5-7 minute benchmark. So, if you want to have a super fast (yet still painful) labor, give Kelsey a call near your due date.

"Holy crap, you're totally having your baby!" Kelsey said over the phone each time a contraction came. 

I wasn't quite convinced, but six hours later, Isaac was born. Six. Hours. Did I mention that Kelsey brings on SUPER FAST labor? 

Before anyone who has suffered through 30-40 hour labors punches me in the face, at least know it was intensely painful. Everyone knows contractions hurt, but nothing truly prepares you. My goal all along was to try to deliver naturally, without pain relief. I wasn't set on going natural, which was a good thing since I decided to get an epidural on the ride to the hospital.

Around 3:20 pm (I know almost exact times because of the text my mom and Ryan sent to Ryan's parents who were driving from Indiana to come as close to the birth as possible), my mom started timing the contractions. They were already 1-2 minutes apart and HUUUUUUURT. They definitely weren't those false contractions. 

Ryan was mowing in the backyard and by 3:40, my mom waved him inside. I thought of some movie I'd seen where the husband is plowing a field and some friend comes running out to him, saying they should call for the doctor. I couldn't imagine already being ready to go to the hospital, so I said we had time and Ryan took 10 minutes to finish mowing. In-between contractions, I tried adding last minute things to my suitcase, but by the time one contraction ended and I got up to add one or two things, another started.

By 4:15, the on-call nurse from the OB's office said to head to the hospital, so off we went. It must have been clear where we were going, as Ryan and my mom threw bags in the car, because one neighbor shouted, "Good luck!" when Ryan got into the Jeep. It was about a half-hour ride and, thinking I'd be in labor for 20-plus hours (they don't let you eat while in labor), I ate about five pounds worth of peanut butter crackers. Belvita biscuits, yogurt, and anything else grabbed from the kitchen.

The food was also a mini-distraction from the PAIN. Each contraction felt like a searing knife in my abdomen. Even without the pain, the contractions felt like panic attacks and that really freaked me out. If you haven't had a panic attack, imagine the hollowest, sinking feeling in your chest combined with the inability to breathe and then add on top of that the certainty that the world is going to end. 

The abdomen stabbing was bad enough, but I was thinking, "How can I go through labor while having panic attacks????" Really, they weren't panic attacks because in-between contractions, the feeling went away and I felt fairly normal. Ryan made a few jokes and I could still laugh.

Ok, I'm good. I can do this. Surely that last contractions wasn't THAT bad, I thought, eating another biscuit.

CONTRACTION

The knife started stabbing, all the light in the world vanished, and there was nothing but me, pain, and panic. 

Noooo, I can't breathe. My chest is hollow and this knife is twisting so deeply. How can I deliver without an epidural? Slowly, the pain eased and my optimism came back.

Ok, that was bad, but the worst of it lasts only a minute. I can ride it out. Lalalala, sun in shining, everything is beautiful, my life is together...

CONTRACTION

Noooooo, darkness. Decay. Ruin. Life is ending as I know it.....

And so on. When we got to the hospital, we parked in front of the entrance and, as I was still able to walk and didn't want to wait on a wheelchair, I powered toward the front doors like it was the only shelter in a hurricane. Everyone smiled knowingly as Ryan and I got on the elevator and it stopped...

At. Every. Single. Floor.

Granted, my water hadn't broken yet and even though I knew by then I wasn't going to be in labor long, I wasn't too worried. Just what are the odds?

Mom drove behind us, so we registered while she was parking, which was weird. How do you fill out a simple form when a universe-ending contraction hits and you can't process anything other than a searing knife of doom in your abdomen? Well, I managed to get my name, birth date, etc., written down and they hooked me up to a bunch of straps to confirm I was in labor.

Uh, pretty sure that wasn't in question, although I guess it made sense that they wanted to see how the contractions were looking. By 5:30 pm, I was 6-7 cm. dilated and my water broke. They took me to the delivery room right on the way and a super-comforting conversation took place between two nurses as they wheeled me through the halls.

"I just don't want to wait too long for anesthesia. There might not be time. It's not going to be long and I'm not sure about her Harrington rods."

"We'll just have to get anesthesia down here fast and see if we can get around them."

I had back surgery for scoliosis in 1999 and my OB said the titanium rods might interfere with an epidural. While I knew this, at the time the OB had seemed confident they wouldn't be a problem. So, the thought of not getting an epidural sounded like torture.

"Are you okay with a morphine drip if they can't get the epidural running?" one of the nurses asked when we got into the delivery room.

"YEEEEEESSSSS."

Fortunately, the anesthesiologist came soon, but it took him almost an hour to get the epidural to work. In the meantime, I got a morphine drip. An angel in the shape of a nurse explained the drip to me and guided me through the contractions. Basically, with morphine they can't keep a continual drip and only start the pain relief when a contraction starts, so that the baby is exposed to as little as possible. Angel Nurse told me that once a contraction started, the morphine would work in 10 seconds. Those 10 seconds were hell, but Angel Nurse had me sit at the edge of the bed and put my hands on her shoulders while she did the same to me.

Each contraction, Angel Nurse counted down from 10 with me until the morphine took away the agonizing, stabbing pain and the feeling of a panic attack. I wish I could explain in words how much those contractions hurt. Not that I have exclusive rights to this kind of pain...I just like being able to explain things. The only other description that comes close is that it felt like I was being torn apart and sewn back together, only to be ripped apart again.

"You can endure anything for 10 seconds," Angel Nurse said after the morphine overpowered one of my contractions.

Even in that moment, I loved how much that logic applies to everything in life. 

Because of the pain, even though it was only 10 seconds at a time, I didn't pay much attention to the anesthesiologist who was working hard to get the epidural past my back rods. He and another nurse talked and poked and prodded. By 6:40 pm, the anesthesiologist got the epidural in. It hurt to have the needle poking around my spine, but I didn't care as long as it would get the even stabbing to go away.

No one told me at the time (rightfully so), but most women with Harrington rods can't get an epidural. Later, one of the nurses said I was only the second person with these back rods she'd seen who got an epidural to work. I didn't know if I should feel glad or empathetic for the "other women." I guess I was both.

Although, it wouldn't have been the end of the world if I had to stick with the morphine drip. Once the epidural got through, though, life was peachy. My body literally slackened and I felt my muscles unclench. I only had to suffer the contractions for a few hours, but it felt like an eternity.

I was 9.5 cm. dilated by 7 p.m. and the nurse said I probably would have delivered within the next half-hour if not for the epidural. I was fine waiting a little longer without the pain! Since I still felt alert enough, I didn't mind giving up on my "all natural" goal so early on. By 8:10 pm, I started pushing and I felt nothing.

Am I even pushing hard? I wondered most of the next hour. There was a nurse next to me the whole time, telling me if I was pushing the right way.

Ok, I'm pushing as hard as I can, but I feel nothing. Can I get a baby out of me if I can't even feel if I'm pushing hard or not? Everyone was saying I was doing great, but everyone says that, don't they? Who's going to say to a woman in labor, "Sweetie, that push was pathetic. Next time, do better or you'll hurt the baby."

I pushed for the next 45 minutes and at one point my mom held up her pocket mirror so that I could see Isaac's head. His dark hair poked out and there was even a lock falling out. Since I really wanted a baby with lots of dark hair, this was by far the most exciting part of labor. 

By 8:55 p.m. the doctor asked if I was okay with an episiotomy because the baby wasn't tolerating the birth canal well. He didn't say that last part at the time, but I figured the doctor knew what he was doing and thought, "Well, my body's already been shredded, reassembled, and reshredded multiple times. Why not add something else?"

Then, just 10 minutes later, Isaac Edward Detzner's head popped out. One push later, a body fortunately came along with the head. Ryan cut the umbilical cord, which I saw, and the doctor showed me the placenta (I asked beforehand to see it because I'm weird and just wanted to know what mine looked like). In about two seconds, the nurses cleaned Isaac and put ointment over his eyes (helps with infection). Then Isaac was put on my chest. 

I didn't cry like women do in the movies...maybe I was too numb from the epidural to feel much of anything. But I was alert and in shock that this was my baby. About 20 minutes after delivery, someone came in to see if Isaac would latch for breast milk and if ever I'm going to brag about my baby, it's to say that he's an awesome latcher. After all the emotional and physical roller-coaster rides from that day, I could have cried from relief if I wasn't so numbed from the epidural. 

I don't remember many other specifics during the following "magic hour" when the doctor and nurses left us alone with Isaac. However, the delivery my body didn't feel at the time caught up with me. Thinking I was having a seizure or something, I started shaking and wondered why no one was worried.

"Oh, that's just from the pain," a nurse explained after the magic hour.

Riiiight. I didn't feel anything at the time, but my body totally freaked out in delivering a baby. It's not like you get an epidural and...BAM...everything's normal again. All night and through the next morning, I shook and only slept for two hours. Well, it wasn't really sleep - more of a foggy haze that I floated in.

I was taken to a special recovery room that night because my blood pressure decide to go freakishly high during delivery. Otherwise, Isaac and I were doing well. People checked on us throughout the night and Ryan slept on a couch next to me. Isaac stayed in a bassinet next to me the whole time. 

At one point, I stupidly put Isaac in bed with me and fell asleep. Even at the time, I knew I wasn't supposed to do that, but wasn't thinking clearly and was freaked out having him a whole foot away. Around three in the morning, a nurse found me in probably the most unglorified state ever...I was in the fog version of sleep and had slid to the very end of the bed (which was incredibly long). I'd tried to breastfeed Isaac and couldn't figure out how to cover myself back up with the hospital gown, so gave up and was practically naked, twisted in a sheet. Basically, I was a hot mess, drugged and probably crazy-looking. Isaac was next to me, at least blocked from the edge of the bed with a pillow. Later, I was relieved I at least had enough sense to put the pillow there.

Needless to say, the nurse had some cleaning up to do. Once I was redressed, at a normal position on the bed with Isaac safely in his bassinet and my bedding changed, I just stared around the room until about 4 a.m. when Tim and Brenda, Ryan's parents, arrived from their mad flight from Indiana. Seriously, they're awesome. They had their van ready to go and literally left as soon as they could. Even through my hazy fog, it was wonderful to see them and have them hold Isaac. They didn't stay long, since it was so late, but at least got to hold Isaac so soon after birth.

I might have dozed off after that; I just don't remember. Around 7 a.m., the pediatrician and a woman who talked REALLY fast came in to say they had to take Isaac to the nursery to "warm him up."

"Sometimesbabiesjustgettoocoldatnightespeciallywhenit'slessthanadaysincetheyweredeliveredbutitwon'ttakelongtobringuphistemperatureokayweshouldtakehimnow...."

Ryan woke up right away and we, of course, asked a billion questions. What do you mean, "warm him up"? How long? What?

Once we were more awake ourselves, pediatrician and fast-talker explained that Isaac's temperature was down to 93 degrees, which can be normal just after birth, but the baby has to be put under a heat lamp and on a heating pad for about a half-hour to warm back up. So they wheeled Isaac away and, sure enough, he came back, warm and asleep.

That next day involved a lot of cuddling and a constant flow of doctors, nurses, birth certificate people, nutrition and lactation consultants, and plenty of others I forget. I was moved to a new room around noon, but still had to stay in bed because I was hooked up to a magnesium drip to control my blood pressure. Apparently, magnesium has awful side effects, but fortunately I didn't notice anything.

Oh, and I was peeing...a LOT. I had a catheter, which was good because I wasn't up for going to the bathroom every five minutes. Basically, the nurses said they weren't concerned about my kidneys since they had to dump the "bladder box" every few hours. No one knew exactly where all the fluid was coming from, but it was probably a combination of the magnesium, my own water intake, and water I had retained during the last month of pregnancy. 

Whatever the case, I was irrationally proud of my kidneys.

I wasn't proud of my blood pressure, though.

A machine read my blood pressure every half-hour and it ranged from 135/85 to 187/97. The magnesium seemed to help, but not enough. In the meantime, I just chilled in bed and enjoyed having Ryan, my mom, Tim, and Brenda around all day. 

Isaac slept the whole day, which was kind of nice because I could just look at him and start to process that this is my SON. I MADE this little person. With no conscious effort other than eating and exercising, my body created LIFE. This little baby with the cone-shaped head that would soon round out is a PERSON and I'm a MOTHER. There's no way to prepare for those thoughts. The fear, the joy, and more fear.

What if I fail? What if I can't handle it all? What if he grows up and hates me? What if I drop him? What if he spits up in his sleep and drowns because he can't move his head? Can that even happen? What if he gets sick? Okay, obviously he's going to get sick! But what if he gets REALLY sick? What if I don't like him? His face looks kind of weird. No, it doesn't. Well, kind of. There's something about his lips that's creeping me out. But that hair. Oh, I love his hair. No, he's cute. Okay, I can do this. I do love him...but what if I fail?

And so the thoughts ran and ran all day. Now that it's been over a week, I feel some semblance of normality and I have no doubt that I love this little baby who snorts when he's hungry and coos in his sleep. I still have plenty of freaked-out moments, but nothing as severe as when I was in the hospital or those few days after coming home.

Besides, I had and have awesome support, which makes the world of difference.

That Monday night, the nutrition people brought me and Ryan our "celebration  meal." I actually loved the hospital food, and thought the meal was awesome...grilled chicken, baked sweet potato, apple pie, and sparkling grape juice. I'm not sure what you call them, but Ryan had brought little pom-pom party decorations to stick in the glasses and in my chicken. He did that because when I first heard we got a "celebration meal," my first mental picture was lit sparklers in a hamburger. That idea sounded super fun, but obviously a hospital wouldn't allow for sparklers, so Ryan surprised me with fake ones. He's awesome.

A friend, Justina, came by to visit, and she was a nice reminder of the outside world. Since I hadn't slept much (or deeply), I felt like I'd been in the hospital for a week instead of a day.

That night, I started getting really overwhelmed with the thoughts of raising a baby and life being forever, always, and everlastingly different. From this point on, Ryan and I were parents. We'll never not be parents. We'll be other things, sure, and still have our former identities, but this is the biggest responsibility we've ever taken and ever will take.

Basically, I was freaked. My mom held Isaac until about 11 and I think I drifted off, but woke about an hour later because Isaac was finally awake and rightfully hungry. After that, I couldn't sleep and didn't sleep more than an hour or two for the next three days. I'll get to that in a later post.

During the night, Ryan slept and I tried, but I was too wired and had to feed Isaac every hour or two anyway. We'd been struggling to swaddle Isaac correctly and he seems to sleep well only when swaddled (he flails his arms and they wake him up, which is cute, but a problem when he needs to sleep most of the day). Anyway, at one point, I had changed his diaper, which was no small feat since I was still sore from labor and couldn't get out of the bed because of the magnesium drip and blood pressure cuff constantly strapped to my arm.

Anyway, once I had him fed and wearing a clean diaper, I held him in front of me and just stared. It was dark and the middle of the night; I hadn't really slept since Saturday night. Those small, but important details help explain why I got royally terrified. I was staring at Isaac, who looked like a little Amish baby from the 1800s (which sounds cute, but at the time creeped me out). I just sat in bed, terrified as I looked at him.

I have to raise him. I have to be a mom all the time. He needs me like no one has needed me before. Is this baby really mine?

There were some other thoughts that can't even be put into words, but I just sat like a statue, staring at this weird little baby. I was too afraid to even blink, and probably looked like a wide-eyed statue with a baby held with outstretched arms. Finally, I numbly laid Isaac back in his bassinet and...he spit up. Nothing unusual, but in my current mindset, this was the equivalent of seeing an alien's head explode. Right at that moment, the blood pressure machine decided to take a reading and it started beeping because I was at 187/109. Apparently, fear doesn't lower blood pressure. Good to know.

Shaking, I wiped away the spit-up and hit the button for the nurse, knowing I was losing my mind and just needed someone to tell me the baby wasn't an alien.

Sure enough, Isaac wasn't an alien. Phew.

The nurse swaddled Isaac perfectly, which I still can't do, but don't have to because of the genius who invented Swaddle Sacks. He went back to sleep and I laid in a daze until morning came.

The next morning, the nurse unhooked the magnesium drip and blood pressure cuff. I slowly went to the bathroom and took a long shower. That shower was great, washing off the hours and hours of fear, pain, and emotional upheaval. My body looked like a weight-loss patient's, my stomach hanging loosely and legs drooping from the lost fluid. By now, I feel like I have most of my body back - breast feeding apparently helps with that. But that first shower was surreal, as if I was becoming a human again.

Anyway, we left for home around 1 p.m. that Tuesday and I'll write later about the crazy spell I had over the next few days. In the meantime, I should change Isaac's diaper because he's been sleeping on my chest as I've written this last part and I'm pretty sure he wet himself.